Gender dysphoria is another one of those problems which are not discussed enough, which leads to a lot of misconceptions about it. Because it is generally shoved under the carpet and dismissed, insufficient people know about it, be responsible for misunderstandings. They are unable to recognise signs of gender dysphoria, and in case they are suffering from this condition, they cannot understand why they're feeling a certain way. Today, we are going to help you diagnose and cope with gender dysphoria.
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According to WebMD,
People who have gender dysphoria feel strongly that their gender does not match their biology.
For example, a person who has a penis and all other physical traits of a male might feel instead that he's actually a female. That person might have an intense desire to have a female body and also to be accepted by others like a female. Or someone with the physical characteristics of a female would feel her true identity is male.
It is totally different from concepts like transgender, transsexual, bisexual, or any other orientations that people confuse gender dysphoria with. However, feelings of depression, insecurity and self-esteem issues can also cause one to be dissatisfied with themselves. Despite the fact that one of the side effects of gender dysphoria can be depression and other psychological conditions, the actual thing is different from not liking yourself. Gender dysphoria occurs specifically whenever you cannot relate to the gender that you were assigned at birth.
Here are several signs and symptoms of gender dysphoria that can help you diagnose the issue accurately.
Symptoms of Gender Dysphoria
Because gender dysphoria doesn't have any physical symptoms, diagnosing the issue can become a little difficult. The signs can be divided into various categories, depending on factors such as the age of the person, the sexual orientation of the individual, etc. While some of the signs are extremely obvious, some are more subtle and difficult to understand at first. Here are a few examples.
In children:
- They may won't participate in activities that are typically associated with their gender. For example, a boy may won't play aggressively with other boys, and instead want to do what the girls he is surrounded with are doing.
- Children often insist that they are actually of the opposite sex, if they are suffering from gender dysphoria. They may dress that way, mock the mannerisms of the opposite sex, and do everything to convince themselves and others that they are not what they were assigned at birth.
- They tend to play with other children of a potential partner, which is an uncommon trait in a young age. They don't identify with their very own gender, hence they are attracted for the opposite gender for company and inspiration.
- They are highly uncomfortable using their genitalia. Girls may want to grow male genitalia, while boys may want to get rid of theirs. They also have a tendency to behave as the opposite sex when they are doing such things as urinating, because they are uncomfortable using the way their genitals work.
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In teens and adults:
- Teenagers who are suffering from gender dysphoria are highly uncomfortable when their bodies go through changes during puberty. They are unable to come to terms with the masculine and feminine elements that start to become more obvious in their bodies.
- By the time someone is in their late teens, they are fully aware for sure that their biologically assigned gender is not something they identify with, and they'd rather belong to the opposite sex.
- One common symptom may be the intense need to hide physical evidence of their gender. For example, women try to hide their breasts, while men don't let their body hair grow, etc.
- They have a tendency to bond more with and be more comfortable with people of the opposite gender, which is the gender they truly identify with. They seek out their company and detect their behavioral traits and do not subscribe to any of the gender stereotypes of the biological gender.
Subtle signs of gender dysphoria:
- Sometimes, signs of gender dysphoria are not as obvious because it seems. Some of the subtler signs resemble those of anxiety, bipolar disorder and even depression. For example, people who suffer from undiagnosed gender dysphoria have trouble simply getting through the day without a feeling of discomfort. Even simple things like getting up from bed, putting on a costume and going to get groceries seem like a heavy burden.
- Some people also believe an overwhelming sense of purposelessness. They don't find any meaning in life, don't find enthusiasm within the tasks that they do and do not relate to the things that other people in their social circle or age group are relating to.
- Feeling a sense of disconnect from everyone who are around you is also a symptom for gender dysphoria. All the observable traits of others come across as “normal” while a person suffering from gender dysphoria would feel “abnormal” in the same situation.
How to Deal With Gender Dysphoria
The first and foremost thing you must do is you have gender dysphoria is get professional help. Go see s doctor, go speak with a therapist, or just speak with anyone about your condition, so that you feel just a little at peace with yourself.
Apart from professional help, there are few things you can do in your life, which will help you get through your days without hating yourself. But before that, it is important to remember that even though gender dysphoria is a problem, it is not an illness. It is not a “problem” as many people think it to be. It is a condition that is obscure and therefore, often misinterpreted. No matter who you are, or what you want to be, step one is always to learn how to love yourself.
That being said, here are some coping mechanisms that I found helpful, and hopefully you'll too.
- Get a pet. It is in moments like this that you need unconditional love, and there is no better place to get it from, apart from from an animal.
- Constantly reflect on yesteryear. Map your progress and remind yourself on a regular basis that you have come really far when compared with where you used to be. And it is only going to get better.
- Talk to someone who is going using it . thing as you are. This might be difficult, but meeting new people is now easier than ever. When you talk to someone who understands what you are going through, you don't feel as alone.
- Find your coping mechanism. Whether it is a playlist, or movies or kickboxing, find something which brings you peace and whenever you feel disconnected from yourself, escape into your safe space.
- Take time out every day for yourself. Use that time to reflect, to think about yourself and no matter what else you feel like doing on your “me” time, don't forget to list down at least 3 things that you love about yourself and your body. Being completely honest on your own and telling yourself what you love about your body is a terrific way to build self confidence.
- Write down your feelings. Writing is a very cathartic exercise, and also you don't have to be a poet to express yourself. Expressing what you have been feeling and thinking is like a physical release which helps the body relax and makes you feel happier about yourself.
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- Find a role model. There is always safety in numbers. When you have someone you can look up to, you know that you are not alone. You can read up about their story and their struggle and other things about them inspires you, and then try to emulate them in your own personal life.
- Avoid negativity. There are certain people and certain spaces which just make you feel bad about yourself because of the negative vibes. If you feel remotely uncomfortable somewhere or with someone, simply leave. Nothing and no one is more valuable than you are, and you should not let anything compromise your relationship with yourself.
- Do things which make you feel fabulous. Gender dysphoria comes with a lot of self esteem issues, deficiencies in self confidence and body image issues. To combat this, you need to seek out activities which make you are feeling good about yourself. You can go to the gym, practice a sport, practice martial arts, or indulge in other creative pursuits such as drawing and painting and music; whatever enables you to feel good about yourself!
If you have been seeing the symptoms of gender dysphoria in you or in someone you care for, then it is not something you should ignore. Do something about it. Address it. Make yourself, and other people feel better about themselves.